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6 Best Dating Tips That Will Completely Change Your Life
The best piece of dating advice I've ever received came from my older sister who told me that men never do anything they don't want to do. She explained that if a guy really likes me, he will make an effort to spend time with me. She said that if he doesn't text or call, then he isn't worth my time. It's true that the best dating tips often come from family members and friends who are older and wiser than you, because it takes a long time to learn the most valuable lessons in love. Making your own mistakes every now and then is undoubtedly important, but learning from other people's experiences doesn't hurt, either.
You want to go into a first or second date armed with as much confidence in yourself as possible. If your best friend's usual mantras are starting to sound like a broken record, this list is for you. These life-changing tips from six real women will help you to put your best foot forward when it comes to dating. If you're single and actively meeting new people, these are the dating tips you need. Each of these pieces of advice clearly stuck with the women who shared them, so why shouldn't they work just as well for you?
This woman believes in the importance of getting in the right mindset before a date.
One of my favorite dating tips is to chill out before the date by having a glass of wine and listening to music while getting ready. It's so simple, but I honestly think it helps you unwind after a busy day and get into true 'date mode.' That always made me feel more relaxed and confident before first dates.
— Hannah, 25
This woman's guy friend reminded her that she should always feel like her date's first choice.
I was confiding in my best guy friend about this guy who had blown me off for the millionth time and he said, 'If someone wants you, if they like you, they'll never leave you guessing. They'll make time for you. They’ll show up.' And it's so simple really and just, you know, obvious. But I needed to hear it. In that same conversation, I explained that I felt like a consolation prize, second best, or even last choice. And he said, 'Bullsh*t. You are first prize and you should feel like that, especially in your own love life.'
— Sydnee, 26
This woman stresses that it's OK to have the power when it comes to dating.
The best dating advice I've ever received is that they should be trying to impress you — not the other way around. Also, it's OK to reject them before they reject you.
— Brittany, 27
For this woman, whatever happens, happens. She recognizes that she can't always control other people's choices.
Let it be. If you hold the relationship too tight, you'll crush it. If it's too free, it will go away. Just let it be.
— Orly, 23
This woman's father taught her that she only deserves the best.
My dad once told me to order Champagne on a date, and if he orders the house Champagne to never see him again.
— Eliza, 27
This woman has learned the true value of compromise.
The best dating advice I ever received was: 'When there's conflict, it's you and your partner together versus the issue, not you against your partner.' I just really love that frame of thinking.
— Mary, 23
Not all advice is universal, but these six pieces are applicable to pretty much everyone. Keep the above tips in mind as you navigate the often choppy waters of dating in the 21st century, and it will be smooth sailing from here on out.
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When Should You Talk About Politics While Dating? It's Earlier Than You Think
If you're a young person in America, your political views are probably something you hold close to your heart, no matter where you fall on the spectrum. That being said, matching with a moderate hottie who voted for Donald Trump in 2016, or a snack who refuses to vote in 2020 if their candidate isn't the front-runner is terrifying — but it's also very possible. These conversations can be dicey and maybe even mood-killing, despite being so d*mn important. So, you're stuck asking yourself a very valid question: When should you talk about politics while dating?
You've probably witnessed the explosive potential of talking politics with your family, and needless to say, that's probably not the vibe you want for a first date. But even though bringing up politics early on while dating may seem too personal, you're better off just ripping off the Band-Aid, says dating expert Julie Spira — especially because our country is so divided.
"For the first time, differing politics has become the number one deal-breaker in relationships," Spira, author of Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships, tells Elite Daily. "Since politics is so much more than supporting a party, and the issues at stake are severe, [dating success] really comes down to finding someone with shared values."
"If your partner doesn't feel the way you do about women's rights, children separated at the border in cages, and healthcare, your values won't be aligned," Spira continues. Someone's political views can say a lot about them, from their soft spots, to their privilege, to their views on equality and conflict.
Even the decision to be apolitical can be a point of contention in relationships. So if you wouldn't be cool with dating someone who's apolitical or don't want to waste your time on someone with total opposite views, it helps to be upfront about these potential deal-breakers.
"Since we're in an election season now with primaries and debates filling the news cycle, not having an opinion isn't an option anymore," she says. "My research shows that 87% of singles won't date someone who didn't and won't vote, showing that being a voter is actually a sexy trait."
So, apart from worrying about what you're wearing or if your date is as cute in-person as they are on Tinder, you'll probably have to prepare for questions like, "Who are you voting for?" If you've got your answer ready, don't shy away from giving it and explaining which issues are a deciding factor in your endorsement.
"If you prefer to have a date in a politics-free zone, then treat it the same way as if someone starts to talk about their ex," Spira explains. "I recommend politely, saying, 'Oh, I don't talk about politics until the third date,' and smile or wink at your date."
If you're only just right of center or you're still heartbroken about Elizabeth Warren dropping out of the race, you can eliminate a lot of heartache (and headache) by putting your political affiliation in your dating app profile. "It's simple to show so by wearing political swag such as a MAGA hat or 'vote blue no matter who' [apparel] in your profile photos," Spira says. "On your profile, you can add, 'Swipe left if you voted right,' or 'Must support our president.'"
You might also end up dating someone who you disagree with on certain issues, but align with on core values. "Finding a compatible date doesn't mean you should only be interested in a mirror-version of yourself," Spira offers. "Learning another point of view can enrich your life, and having a lively political debate, as long as you're not attacking each other, could make for an interesting night on the town."
You'll know in your gut who feels like a good fit politically and who doesn't. As hot and exciting as your date may be, do both of you a favor and don't be afraid to jump right into the politics conversation. It might make things uncomfortable for a moment, but you'll thank yourself later.
Expert:
Julie Spira, dating expert and author of Love In The Age Of Trump: How Politics Is Polarizing Relationships
15 Bumble Bio Ideas To Use During The Coronavirus That'll Rack Up Matches
No pressure or anything, but what you write in your bio could mean the difference between a right or left swipe. IRL, you can catch someone’s attention with a flirty smile across a packed bar, a witty joke deployed via DM slide, or bold moves on the dance floor. On dating apps, however, you have a limited number of words (and photos) to make that crucial first impression. Dating apps are more crowded than ever these days, so check out these Bumble bio ideas to use during the coronavirus pandemic.
Odds are, you're spending more time than ever swiping away now that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has recommended social distancing. The key to attracting quality matches, of course, is to put your best foot forward — and a clever bio is a great way to show off your personality and sense of humor.
A warning: Now is not the time to test out your edgiest jokes. Kindness and respect are always welcome on dating apps — so please, steer clear of offensive jokes that make light of people who are sick, out of work, or on the front lines.
This is easier than you might think. Need some inspiration? The following bios are ready to use — all you have to do is hit copy and paste. Whether you're searching for your soulmate or just a pen pal to casually flirt with, these bios are bound to rack up the matches.
1. Seeking someone that looks at me the way I look at the last roll of toilet paper RN.
2. Now accepting Venmo payments for our next virtual date: [insert handle here].
3. Current hobbies include: mindlessly looking inside my fridge every 20 minutes, panic-scrolling Twitter, maybe chatting with you?
4. Pros: looks decent in a face mask. Cons: spotty WiFi signal.
5. Using this sitch to work on fulfilling my dream of becoming a TikTok sensation. HBU?
6. Please remember to practice safe sext (washing your hands for at least 20 seconds).
7. Signature scent: Purell.
8. Current theme song: “All By Myself.”
9. I’m just a human, standing 6 feet away from another human, asking them not to move any closer.
10. Looking for my Prince Charmin.
11. Tell me your go-to quarantine snack and we’ll go from there.
12. FYI, I make a mean quarantini.
13. Apparently, what you stock up on says a lot about you. For me, it’s coffee and wine.
14. Major points if you can send me the perfect coronavirus-meets-Tiger King meme.
15. There’s a 50/50 chance I’ll be wearing PJs on the bottom during our next virtual date. Just trying to kick things off on a note of pure honesty.
Should You Text Your Crush During The Coronavirus Outbreak? Here's The Truth
So, you've found a safe place to practice social distancing. You've stocked up on frozen pizzas and called your grandpa to explain how FaceTime works. And then, well... you've mostly just been watching Hannah Brown and Tyler Cameron's TikToks and observing your nail polish flake off from washing your hands a million times a day, right? It gets lonely after awhile, and you might be drawn to finding connection in ways you wouldn't normally: by video-chatting friends you aren't that close with, watching hours of random influencers' Instagram Lives, and even texting your crush.
Talking to someone you like might seem silly at first, because it's not like you should meet up right now. Per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the virus can spread between people who are in close contact with each other. It's important to "flatten the curve" by isolating and practicing social distancing and good hygiene in order to ensure that not everyone gets sick with the coronavirus at once. If that were to happen, the healthcare system would be dangerously overwhelmed.
As people are physically farther apart than ever before, it's important to find virtual ways to come together. That's exactly why you should shoot your shot: In the absence of normal socializing, a tiny scrap of affection can make a world of difference.
If I can get corny for a sec, texting your crush is good for you. In 1988, epidemiologists at the University of Michigan published a landmark study in the journal Science that found social connections improve your physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing. People who feel connected to others have a stronger immune system and lower levels of depression and anxiety, among a whole host of other benefits. You can absolutely get those perks by cooking with your roommate or calling Mom, but there's no need to stop there.
Aside from Grey's Anatomy donating medical supplies to real doctors in need and this video of penguins exploring an aquarium on a "field trip," there's a shortage of good news right now. So, take joy where you can get it. Text your crush. Don't have one? Find a new crush! According to the many push notifications I've received this week, activity is up on both Tinder and Bumble.
There's never been an easier icebreaker in the world. "Hey, how are you holding up?" is no longer boring. It's kind. Ask them about their family's health, about their best friend who bags groceries at the supermarket, about how they're working or studying from home. During these stressful, uncertain times, a thoughtful message goes a long way.
Once you've sparked a conversation, swap Netflix recs or recipe ideas. Ask creative questions. Send the link to that penguin video. Maybe things get steamy. Whatever! Almost anything you could say over text will be more exciting than the seventh consecutive episode of The Office they're currently watching in bed, surrounded by crumbs. The bar is set low and the potential for entertainment is high.
It's true that you two probably won't be able to see each other for the foreseeable future. But if the sight of someone's name bubbling up on your phone screen makes you happy, isn't that worth something? There are far worse problems right now than being bored or lonely, and this situation won't last forever. You will get through this — and you don't have to do it alone.
If you think you’re showing symptoms of coronavirus, which include fever, shortness of breath, and cough, call your doctor before going to get tested. If you’re anxious about the virus’s spread in your community, visit the CDC for up-to-date information and resources, or seek out mental health support. You can find all Elite Daily's coverage of coronavirus here.
I've never felt particularly good at dating. It seemed to me like everyone was "better" at it. But as I've gotten older, I've worked toward becoming a more confident, self-loving human, and welcoming whatever opportunity for love may come my way. Since I began quarantining during the coronavirus outbreak, I figured dating would have to be on the back burner for now. But Here/Now's virtual singles' mixer changed that.
Here/Now is a company that curates gatherings of single people, typically in New York and Los Angeles. As of mid-March 2020, the mixers have gone virtual. I attended one of the company's events in Manhattan last year (when Here/Now was previously known as Perchance). The evening was fun! People were nice! There was free wine and lots of cheese! At the end of the night, everyone filled out an online survey to indicate who they were romantically interested in. If you received a match, you'd get an email. I met a guy I quite liked that night, but I didn't get any matches. At first, I felt rejected in an entirely new way, but then I remembered how much I enjoyed the night anyway. I put myself out there in a new way and I ate a ton of cheese. It wasn't a loss.
When Here/Now switched to virtual events, I jumped at the chance to attend. Historically, I haven't had the best luck with dating apps, and I'm not going to meet anyone in my new daily commute from my bed to my refrigerator. So I welcomed the opportunity for connection and distraction.
My seat for the virtual singles' mixer.
On the morning of the event, I woke up excited that I had some kind of social plan for the evening. For the first time in 14 days, I put on clothes instead of pajamas. I put on red lipstick and felt about 68% more alive than I’ve felt all March. I felt like I was getting ready to go on an actual date. I had not seen another person in real life for 15 days, so even though this mixer was online, I still felt grateful.
At 7 p.m., I joined the mixer on Zoom. There were 15 faces: 12 singles (myself included), plus three people from Here/Now who would facilitate the event. There were a few rules. Like always, Here/Now asked that we didn't talk about work. But this time around, we were also not allowed to discuss quarantine living. The organizers asked each of us to bring an item that represented our personality. We were also told to make ourselves a drink; Here/Now was kind enough to send us a coupon for a wine delivery service. I, an abundantly sophisticated individual, poured White Claws left over from February into a wine glass with a straw. I was already having a pretty grand Thursday.
To break the ice, we each shared a few words about our items. One woman talked about a beautiful photo she took when she traveled to Namibia. Two men shared books that meant a lot to them. I offered up my New York Yankees lawn gnome named Derek (of Derek Jeter fame!), which says everything you need to know about me.
Next, we were placed in a series of conversations. Each round, whether it was a group (four screens/four participants) or one-on-one (two screens/one man to my gnome-loving self), had a prompt. They included:
- What were you like as a child and how are you still like that child?
- If you could be an expert at one thing, what would it be?
- If you could have a huge house with one unique, strange room, what would it be?
- What’s something that makes you endearing?
- What’s one thing you’ve done that you would never do again?
The facilitators noted that they designed thoughtful questions to get us talking about things that mattered to us. One question prompted a conversation about books with a man wearing a hat the size of a newborn baby. In a group discussion, I heard a guy say he loved the Mets. That’s a terrible life decision on his part, but I was immediately excited to be chatting with someone who cared about baseball as much as I do. He was attractive and sweet, so naturally, I told him my most endearing quality is that I snort. Truly, it's what all men are dying to hear.
I was genuinely surprised that the Zoom setup didn’t feel awkward at all. Attraction bloomed even over screens. The entire event flowed well, and I don’t know how Here/Now does it, but they always seem to find people who are kind and offer great conversation. At the end of the night, I filled out the survey to indicate attraction to both the hat man and the Mets fan. I didn't match with either, but I did match with a kind man with a beautiful beard who talked about how excited he was to be an uncle for the first time. All in all, I had a great night.
This event was a great way to offset the intensity and loneliness that can accompany social distancing. It gave me the opportunity to put on makeup, meet new people, and — even if it was just an hour — feel a little bit less alone. These are strange and unfortunate times, but I hope they bring possibilities and magic we wouldn't have otherwise experienced.
Lea Michele Is Reportedly Pregnant & 'Glee' Predicted This, Y'all
Congratulations are in order for Lea Michele. The former Glee star and her husband, Zandy Reich, are reportedly expecting their first child together. Fans are thrilled to hear Lea Michele is reportedly pregnant, especially since the timing is is giving Glee fans out major flashbacks (Michele's team did not respond to Elite Daily's request for confirmation).
The happy news was first reported by People magazine on April 27, and, apparently, a baby has always been in the cards for these two. “They’ve always wanted to be parents,” a source shared with the publication.
Fans quickly realized one very important connection between Michele's baby news and her role as Rachel Berry on Glee. On the hit show's 2015 finale, it was revealed Berry won a Tony, married Jesse St. James, and —most importantly — got pregnant in 2020. Michele hasn't won a Tony (yet) and she def didn't marry Jonathan Groff (who played St. James), but she did get pregnant the same year as Berry!
Fans can't get over the parallel between Michele's real life and that of her character. "LEA MICHELE AND RACHEL BERRY BEING PREGNANT IN 2020 IS THE SERVE IVE BEEN WAITING FOR," one fan tweeted.
LEA MICHELE AND RACHEL BERRY BEING PREGNANT IN 2020 IS THE SERVE IVE BEEN WAITING FOR
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"Lea michele being pregnant at the same time as rachel berry... and i thought she couldn’t be more of a gleek than she already was," another fan said.
lea michele being pregnant at the same time as rachel berry... and i thought she couldn’t be more of a gleek than she already was
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Another wrote, "Lea michele is pregnant the same year rachel berry was.... further proof that it’s unknown where lea michele starts and rachel berry ends."
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Michele and her hubby tied the knot in 2019, marrying in an intimate ceremony in Northern California. They shared their special day with over 200 friends and family, People reported.
“We are so excited to be married and grateful to be surrounded by our friends and family,” the couple told People at the time. “And most of all, we’re so happy to spend the rest of our lives together.”
Now, the couple is reportedly taking the next step in their journey together.
Gleeks everywhere may be full-on freaking out over the baby news, but Glee saw it coming all along.
Nick Viall Slammed Madison Prewett For Being "Vain" & A "Liar"
The Bachelorette production may be on hold, but the Bachelor Nation drama keeps coming in hot. During the Monday, April 27 episode of The Viall Files, Nick Viall slammed Madison Prewett for being “vain” and a “liar,” thanks to some shady Instagram drama that went down in January. (Elite Daily reached out to Prewett’s rep for comment on Viall’s allegations and didn’t hear back in time for publication.)
Because January legit feels like it took place 84 years ago, here’s a quick refresher: Prewett posted a photo of her date with Peter Weber, then commented on it, “Beautiful date, Madi. You are so genuine and real.” Bachelor fan account @BachSleuthers caught a screenshot of the comment before it was deleted, which prompted some fans to believe Prewett had intended to leave the praise from a fan account. Her friend claimed she left the comment while accidentally logged into Prewett’s account (which she claimed to have accessed while her friend was filming The Bachelor), but not everyone bought that explanation.
So, back to Viall. He didn’t shy away from going off on Prewett while talking to podcast guest Lauren Zima:
We also know Madison to be a little bit of a liar. It's true! I mean, people wanna forget. I know Madison wants to forget it. But, her Instagram. That's not an allegation. It's a fact she did that. And listen, it is silly and trivial, right? And there's a logical explanation for it, which is that she wanted people to like her. It's a totally relatable thing. Listen, I'm more critical of that, and I know Madison thinks I don't like her and I know people think I've been hard on Madison. I think she's just fine, I've even defended Madison. But if you're gonna be righteous and you're gonna be pious, and you're gonna, like, talk about your relationship with God, and how you want to be an example to young women, blah blah blah blah blah, then I hold you to a higher standard. And so don't be a liar, don't be vain. I'm vain, I can be vain! Don't have your family use Bruce Pearl's house for your hometown and sell it as your own home. When it's not your home!
It’s been a rough week for Prewett. After she told Kaitlyn Bristowe on the Off the Vine podcast on Tuesday, April 21 that Weber was “calling” and “texting” to “get back together” two days before he reunited with Kelley Flanagan, Weber refuted her claims. "[Y]ou’d think you’d have a little more respect for this situation given we both know there’s more to the story…" he wrote in an Instagram comment. He then unfollowed her.
On March 9, the day before The Bachelor’s Season 24 finale aired, Viall theorized about Prewett and Weber’s compatibility with Elite Daily, implying the couple wasn’t strong enough to last. “The obvious question with Madison and Peter is how much is it a conflict between her faith and his? Sometimes, when we’re young, we try to fit a square peg into a round hole," he said. "And sometimes, we confuse fighting for love with forcing something that’s just not compatible. When you first fall in love, there's chemistry and excitement. We confuse love with lust. But there's a big difference between that initial excitement [of meeting someone] and feeling that this is the woman I want to spend every day with for the rest of my life.”
Considering that Prewett has stayed friendly with her former Bachelor co-stars and that Weber is reportedly “fully” dating Flanagan, it looks like everyone is moving on before the shade spiral churns too far.
20 Tweets About Gigi Hadid's Reported Pregnancy That'll Make You Scream
Hi, hello. In case you haven't been thrust out of your quarantine boredom by a certain star's life update, let me be the bearer of good news: Gigi Hadid is reportedly expecting her first child with Zayn Malik, according to claims by multiple sources who reportedly spoke to Entertainment Tonight, TMZ, and Us Weekly. (Elite Daily reached out to reps for Hadid and Malik to confirm news of the reported pregnancy, but did not hear back in time for publication.) If that's not the bright spot you needed during the coronavirus outbreak, I don't know what is — and these tweets about Gigi Hadid's reported pregnancy perfectly capture the emotional rollercoaster you're on RN.
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